So your Boss does not like you and you are probably going through the most miserable phase of your life. Is there anything you can do about it or is it preferable to maintain -the status quo?
You will do nothing about the situation if and only if you have made up your mind to leave the organization. That is the last resort. So before making the ultimate decision consider the following:
- Are you a good performer ?
- Do you have adequate knowledge to perform the tasks you are assigned to ?
- Is there at least one person in the organization at a level higher than your boss you know ?
- Does he or she like you ?
- Do you like the culture at your current workplace ?
- Do you like your job ?
- Until, the relationship deteriorated, were you satisfied with your growth ?
If the answer to all the above questions is ” yes,” it is definitely not the time to consider resignation.
Now since you want to give it another try, what are the next steps ?You will have do a root cause analysis. Why he or she does not like you. How did it start? Does he or she have a favourite?Go through a brain storming session. If you have very close friends amongst your peers, brainstorm with them. Otherwise take a piece of paper and a pencil and write down the possible reasons.
If the relationship with your boss went south following a certain event or a series of events, write them down and then think if there were alternative ways to handle those situations. If you had become confrontational during those situations and you hurt his or her pride/ego, it may be a good idea to request an one on one meeting with your boss and discuss the issues as well as the remedies. If there are some of your personality traits that your boss does not like, explain your behaviour and if you think you will be able to change some or a part of your personality tell him or her that you will change. If an apology is in order, go ahead and apologize.
If the above situation does not apply to you, directly but politely ask your boss why she or he is not happy. Ask him or her what you can do that will improve the situation. Try to work out a plan with your boss, set specific targets and timeline. If two of you agree to a plan, you will have to work hard to achieve the targets.
If your boss is playing favourite, you need to analyze your colleague, what he or she is doing to please your boss. If that person is just apple polishing and you don’t have the taste to do the same, don’t do that. Simply try to outperform your colleague in every possible way, it will take a little time but your problem will go away. However if that other person is doing certain things better compared to your performance in those areas, it’s time to roll up your sleeves and catch up with your competitor or even outperform him or her.
Finally your boss may just be jerk, none of the above will work in that situation. In large organization there are ways to elevate the issues and find a solution. You may take it to your boss’s supervisor, the HR manager, or if your organization has an Ombudsperson you may want to approach him or her. From my experience in the corporate world, I can tell you that probability of success in using these formal channels is around 50%. It will largely depend on organizational politics, how strong your boss is in the organization and how powerful his or her connections are.
However, if you can provide with concrete evidence that the way your boss is dealing with you is unethical and wrong, driven by vested interest or simply a result of nepotism your chances of success will be much higher. So try to gather those evidences, look at the email exchanges with your boss and see if you can find a disconnect and use them as evidence. During the time of confrontations, documentation of your and the adversaries actions are very important. So whenever you are complying with any of your boss’s instructions confirm it through an email. If possible copy your boss’s supervisor and other stakeholders. If you don’t agree with your boss on certain issues, send her or him emails and explain your stand on the issues and suggest your solutions and again copy as many stakeholders as possible.Never become confrontational in your correspondences, you should project yourself as a solution provider not a crusader.
Finally do not forget that your life is not confined within the four walls of your company, there is a wide open world outside the organization. You will never run out of options because you have the ability to create options for yourself.